Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: Foreign hey, welcome everyone to a bonus segment that we call Jonathan's Leftovers. This is a little extra helping of the Jonathan Project podcast. This is coming to you again, Jonathan's Leftovers. We're going to talk to you about a extra segment here from the main episode this week, which we're talking about being good husbands. The gift of being a great husband goes kind of beyond Mother's Day or any other kind of holiday. And we're going to spend a few minutes here talking about that. If you want to find this episode or any episode, please go to your favorite podcast platform. That could be Apple, Spotify, iHeartRadio, you name it, you can find us there. Also, in the preview there is a link that allows you to subscribe Casio. So please go subscribe so you don't miss this episode or the main episodes. And also we have a free devotional.
The link is there if you need prayer. Anything else, please reach out to us at the Jonathan Project podcast. Mail.com Again, the Jonathan Project podcast gmail.com Jason here we are for Jonathan's Leftovers on this glorious Wednesday morning. So what are we going to talk to the folks?
[00:01:18] Speaker B: So you heard the main episode yesterday.
And so today is a little bit more of the where the Rubber Meets the Road. And as Colby, you and I were talking, it's, you know, we talked about how we correlate what we can do for our families into this servant leadership. And I thought it was pretty unique that certain leadership is divided up into traits and behaviors. Now, servant leadership is a behavior based leadership formula which falls in line with what God tells Joshua to be strong and have good courage. Right. Like we all choose Jesus chose.
And it talks a lot about emotional healing, which are steps you can take. And it talks about putting the followers first, putting them ahead of you, but not putting them ahead of that greater strategic goal, which in this case is coming to have a close relationship with Jesus. Talks about having them grow and succeed. Right.
And how we always behave ethically. You and I talked about, I've got this great little psychology test here about ethical leaders, servant leadership and how strong you are in it. And there's a lot of biblical backing. So I'm gonna read a couple of them and if you, I know you've got some great examples.
So it says here cares more about other success than their own.
You know, with the Bible talks about that.
[00:02:44] Speaker A: Right.
[00:02:45] Speaker B: And it talks about investing in others.
It says encourages others to handle important, important decisions on their own. Yeah. You know, I think as guys we are like control freaks. And we're like, nope, I got this.
[00:03:01] Speaker A: Oh, yeah, yeah, absolutely. You know, for guys, we can stray very quickly and trying to be authoritative at home versus, you know, understanding that our wives are help mates and that they might be seeing things in us that we're missing. Deficient leadership. Right. And that is why certain things are going and happening in a certain way. Right.
[00:03:23] Speaker B: Yeah. You know, and also, quite often, you know, we, I, I love the video. It's all about the nail. Right. The guy has the, you know, the lady's talking about the pressure in the forehead and this, that and the other. And he's like, ah, you got this nail in your forehead. And she's like, I don't want to talk about that. And, you know, it's. You need to hear what I'm saying. And these guys, we want to fix it.
But one of the key components of this servant leadership, and it's asked like, multiple different ways in here, is how much room do you give people to grow?
[00:03:58] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:03:59] Speaker B: You know, and I'll ask you, Colby, do we.
Is it okay to let people fail?
[00:04:05] Speaker A: I think there is a time and a place, and I think the Bible proves this out where, you know, God will give you a little bit of rope and, you know, really, that rope is just faith. Right. How. How are you going to move towards him with what he's given you? Right. He doesn't give you necessarily everything you need, but he does give you choice. And sometimes we choose to deviate off the path and let go of the rope. Think about Peter walking to him on the water and he just sinks because he gets focused on the storms versus on the objective.
[00:04:38] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:04:38] Speaker A: You know, and sometimes it's with that, with our relationships, it's like, hey, look, I'm trying to head you off from pain.
[00:04:46] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:04:46] Speaker A: But as long as it's not going to be absolutely detrimental, I'm going to let, I'm going to let this cook.
[00:04:51] Speaker B: You know, that's it is, as a husband, as a father, at what point does it become catastrophic?
Right. Like, we all learn from our mistakes.
[00:05:02] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:05:02] Speaker B: We all learn from our, you know, figuring it out.
That's. That's part of growing.
[00:05:07] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:05:07] Speaker B: You know, it's in. I had a friend of mine who was asking me biblical questions, and he was quoting the Bible in his defense of a concept. Right. And I'm like, well, let's just open that up and you, you read it to me. I got mine. You read yours, I'll read mine, and let's figure out exactly what it Says, I think sometimes just walking through a valley with someone is what's important. As long as we're not walking away from Christ, you know, let's just walk together and figure it out. Right. Like, I want you to grow.
Sometimes getting stuck under the squat bar is okay as long as it's temporary.
[00:05:50] Speaker A: Yeah. Because it forces you to get strong. And I think that. Which is kind of what I would say for this leftovers, the extra helping that I would give you, you know, as the audience tonight, is just to say is, you know, alone with God equals strength for the home. You know, and you see this model through Jesus. He would go and spend time with his Father. That way he could give his best right to the people that were asking of him. And as guys are, we're not building in that habit to spend time with the Lord, to seek his counsel, to understand what he's trying to say. We're. We have our own gaps, and we're just trying to tell everyone else in the house what's going on with them. You're all jacked up. You're all wrong. And you're never spending time where the Lord can and can mentor and develop you. Then that's a problem. Mark 1:35 says Jesus withdrew early to pray. I'm a big fan of getting up early starting today. Maybe it's because it's the years of the army. You start at dark 30 every day anyway. Even the Son of God needed solitude with the Father. So wake up early, you know, get into your word or whatever time you need to have a dedicated time and let him speak to you as a man, as a husband, as a father, all these titles that you carry. Let's see what he has to say. You know, how can I help my wife today and not be, you know, give me the words Holy Spirit when I interact with her, that she hears you, not me, you know, because if she hears me, then the. The force feels to go up like the old Star Trek, right?
And the photon capitos. Nothing's getting through, right?
But if she hears you, it melts the heart. It softens, it allows what you have for her because she's your daughter just as much as she's my wife. And we have to remember that that's God's daughter and he has something for her that he wants her to understand. So spend that alone time to get that strength at home.
[00:07:43] Speaker B: That's an excellent. That's an excellent point. And that. That alone time between you and God as you sit and listen, because he listens. To everything you got to say. Yeah, right. And then how he speaks is. Is very subtly and quietly to the heart.
I think that translates into action for guys as well. And it's a tough one.
[00:08:04] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:08:04] Speaker B: You know, I know you and I have talked about where do we go at different points in our life. And we're like, man, it'd be great if God would just like, hey, man, here is the op order.
Go ahead and move on down to paragraph three of execution and you know, the command and signal portion. I'm in charge.
And this is how it's going to go. Right?
[00:08:23] Speaker A: Just get after it. Right?
[00:08:24] Speaker B: Yeah, just get after it. Focus on paragraph three.
But in reality, I know times how he answers us and how he sits and listens patiently as we get alone. I think when we're alone, we have to devote that alone time to our spouses. And all those questions it talked about, how much time do you just sit and listen? You know, if you're going to be a servant leader, why don't you just listen? Let them ramble. Let them figure it out. Let's kind of work through this. And it's those simple nudges of guiding out of love, right?
[00:08:56] Speaker A: Yeah. No, I love it, man. Private devotion. Spending time alone fuels your public leadership in the home and outside of the home.
[00:09:04] Speaker B: Yeah, no, I think that's great.
All right. That's all I had for the, for the leftovers. If you got a final statement or anything, it's.
[00:09:12] Speaker A: No, I think that would be it. You know, spending that time with God, you know, developing your servant leadership. That's. That's where you want to be at, guys, because it's not just about your relationship with your spouse. It's with your children, it's with your friends. It's all those places that God has asked you to be a disciple and an influencer. It starts. Starts with him. And then you are the conduit that his words, not yours, not your opinions, his flows through. And that's what transforms things. If you want something changed, you want a relationship change, you want your attitude change, you want to be better, it starts with him, so starts with Jesus, right? So that's Jonathan's leftovers, folks. That's a little extra helping, a little practicality for your day.
If you want to know more about us, what we can do coming out speaking, please reach out to us at the Jonathan Project podcast gmail.com. again, the Jonathan Project podcast gmail.com. if you're looking for a free devotional, please click on the link that will be in the bottom of this episode. Wherever you subscribe, you will find it there, 28 days, two minutes a day. It talks about a lot more of these topics. Marriage, being a husband, a father was a great work put together by this man right here on the screen with me, Jason.
[00:10:24] Speaker B: Dual effort. Dual effort.
[00:10:26] Speaker A: And you can get that. This episode will be out Wednesday at your favorite podcast platforms. I don't know what that may be, but one of my favorites is Spotify. Yours might be Apple, iHeartRadio. You name it, you can find us there. It'll be out Wednesday morning, 6am Eastern or wherever you're at on the plan with 6am Eastern happen. Jason, I appreciate you.
[00:10:46] Speaker B: Appreciate it.
[00:10:48] Speaker A: All right, man. Talk to you later.
[00:10:50] Speaker B: See you.
